1-2 Hour Meetings
Step 1:
1st Meeting
The divorcing couple and the mediator identify the issues needed to be discussed, then decide what information needs to be gathered and shared. Between the first and later sessions the divorcing couple gathers all relevant financial data, or if necessary, the opinions of experts such as appraisers or accountants.
Step 2:
Further Meetings
Discussions revolve around how to compromise on the various issues in order to meet the needs of both individuals. The mediator assist by providing information about the court system and common ways divorce issues are resolved.
Step 3:
The Memorandum of Understanding
When an agreement has been reached on all issues, the mediator drafts the Memorandum of Understanding which is the Divorce Settlement Agreement. Both individuals review the document and agree that the agreement is both fair and equitable. The divorcing couple may also have an attorney review the document in preparation for court.
Step 4:
The Filing of Divorce Court Documents
Once the Memorandum of Agreement is written and reviewed by both individuals, an attorney can assist the divorcing couple in filing all papers with the court, including the dissolution of marriage action, preparing and filing the necessary disclosure documents, and preparing the judgement and final papers and transcript to be filed with the court. Referrals to collaborative attorneys can be provided.
Step 5:
Court Appearance
No court appearances are necessary by either individual for mediation but can attend if preferred.
Step 6:
How long it takes
How long it takes depends on your circumstances. Sometimes, meditations last as few as one or two hour-long sessions. Others can take as many as six to eight sessions. Some people prefer 90 -120 minute sessions, or one-day marathons.